Rogue
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Post by Rogue on Dec 1, 2011 1:39:52 GMT -5
Its been like a month or 2 and I still feel love sick. It hurts so damn much, and I know breaking up was the right thing, but I cant let it go. I've dated in the mean time, I've done stuff to keep myself busy, I've done just about anything the stupid break-up book princezpeich gave me told me to do. It's just not working. I need something else. What do you guys do? Should I just tough this out?
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Post by UlrichAcheronNacht on Dec 1, 2011 1:47:32 GMT -5
I find it ironic you ask us this the day I break up with my girlfriend. I have a knack for shoving things out of my mind if I dislike the idea of it. Try doing that. The "don't care" attitude works in a lot of cases. I use it more often than I should, but it's a great method. And by "don't care", don't think about it. Period. Whenever it goes into your mind, shove it out.
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Post by Fay on Dec 2, 2011 2:14:51 GMT -5
I take the opposite stance as that of Ulrich. Do not try to turn a blind eye to what you're feeling.
In fact, I don't think it's even possible to be sure that breaking up was the best decision. The way it sounds, it may not be the right choice, but it may not be the wrong one, either. A classic paradox, but one that we humans are not immune to due to the way our emotions are. Emotions are not always black and white, mostly they are grey, and mixed.
The two opposite sides are never equal, but they can be so close that you can't possibly know which you want more, or even if you do want one more, it hardly matters because of how much you want the opposite thing.
Based on your love sickness alone, it seems it'd be a little hard to tell whether it is objectively the right or the wrong choice.
Anyway, I dated this girl when I was in 8th grade (the end of middle school) for like two days, we even held hands. Then everyone told me she was a whore. I confronted her about it and she called me stupid. That was the last fucking straw. I said, 'Oh yeah? Well I have better grades than you do!'
Then the teacher took the note we were passing to each other and read out loud how I asked if she was a whore. She started crying (or maybe I called her a whore as well on the note, I can't quite remember). The next day she tried to make up with me but I told her that she would never be happy with me (fucking lol), and then I walked away feeling badass.
And to this day I'm still a virgin. Oh, wait....what?
Anywho, just tough it out. More easy said than done, I know. But being sad will never help. It won't. Sure, I get that once you get cut you can't help but bleed. But eventually you need to cover the wound or you'll die. Of course, that's assuming it's a bad cut that won't stop bleeding by itself. But also remember, a cut can get infected.
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Post by Rogue on Dec 3, 2011 15:34:50 GMT -5
^How come you always know what to say, Fayru? Your post made my day <3 <3 <3 <3 <3
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Post by Freya on Dec 4, 2011 23:53:07 GMT -5
for me when i broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years, even though i felt it was the right thing to do, i ended up back with the guy after 11 days. its been 3 days since then. no idea what was the right or wrong thing but i know that i feel happy when i'm with him.
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Post by Fay on Apr 13, 2013 19:53:47 GMT -5
How to get over a relationship?
Shit, how do you even get into one?
Seems like the hardest, most impossible thing in the world.
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Post by Oka Ace on Apr 17, 2013 9:57:16 GMT -5
Thinking of dumping my girlfriend. Been together two months and it's been good up until the last few weeks. She's immature and doesn't seem to try the way she used to. Ya it's annoying and I could do better but I did enjoy being with her and she is really hot. Maybe I just don't want to be alone I broke up with my last girlfriend right before I started seeing her. Just don't know what to do.
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Post by Fay on Apr 17, 2013 17:37:02 GMT -5
Thinking of dumping my girlfriend. Been together two months and it's been good up until the last few weeks. She's immature and doesn't seem to try the way she used to. Ya it's annoying and I could do better but I did enjoy being with her and she is really hot. Maybe I just don't want to be alone I broke up with my last girlfriend right before I started seeing her. Just don't know what to do. If the prospect of breaking up with her saddens, worries, or doesn't feel right to you in any way, then you might want to hold off on breaking up with her. The next step would be to try to work it out with her in some way. There's probably more clever ways, but I'm more of a straight forward type of dude when I'm not playing around on the internet, so I would just say that you should tell her how you feel, be honest with her. Let her know you need to talk with her about something semi-serious, but before you begin make sure she knows you're NOT breaking up with her for sure. That's the first thing most people think about when someone says something like that, and we don't want her to go into it having bad preconceptions like "Oh, he's breaking up with me", especially if she's immature. You could just casually bring it up without an introduction, but then she might not take it as seriously, I dunno. Then just tell her how you were happy/fine with her before but something is changing. Try to get to the bottom of it. Why it's happening, etc. And just see how it plays out WITHOUT any threats and keep calm. Don't get mad at her. She's probably human with feelings to, and if you really want to try to make this work you have to be willing to understand that she might be pretty fragile. It could be something as simple as the stress of life that's making her like this, which might be fixable. If nothing good comes of it then just break up with her like you planned, I guess. If anything, doing this might make you more sure, or maybe not. And I know the whole cliche is that girls don't like the whole express "feelings" stuff from guys, but I don't think that applies as much once you're in a relationship. And it's not like you have to be like "I'm scared of being alone! *Sobs*" But to me truth is the best for a non-shallow relationship. And if it shallow, then the worst that happens is she breaks up with you, which shouldn't be a problem if you really think you can do better, haha. But I really don't know anything at all about relationships considering the only one I've been in lasted for two days....while I was in middle school.Man, you just had to post this, didn't you? Now I'm depressed lol. There's this girl I became friends with in college. I liked her enough to actually want to ask her out, though I didn't ask her out because she has a boyfriend. I did however tell her I liked her. But she doesn't like me back enough to dump her boyfriend- nor do I expect her to take such a gamble, and while I don't know for sure, she probably doesn't like me back enough to go out with me period. It's not just a random guess because she's definitely given me implications that she wouldn't. But you know how people can be sometimes: they don't like you when you like them, then they like you when you no longer seem interested. So I can't say anything for sure, but still. And the point of saying this? Well, up until now I've never cared about being alone, or having relationships or friends. I wouldn't mind having them since they can be fun, but if I were to have a good friend (but maybe not a best friend) who just said fuck me one day and left, I wouldn't mind, as long as they were happy. I'd still like that person, but I'd be fine. Different with this girl, however. My honesty seems like a bit too much for her to chew- which makes it my fault as well, and it seems like our friendship is degrading. And fuck I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel sad about it. It's just so crazy how you think you know yourself, and your limitations and your preferences, but then one day, out of fucking nowhere you realize you weren't as strong emotionally as you thought you were, that with just the right combination of factors, someone can plant a fucking seed in your brain and just take over everything. =^/
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Post by UlrichAcheronNacht on Apr 17, 2013 21:35:41 GMT -5
Thinking of dumping my girlfriend. Been together two months and it's been good up until the last few weeks. She's immature and doesn't seem to try the way she used to. Ya it's annoying and I could do better but I did enjoy being with her and she is really hot. Maybe I just don't want to be alone I broke up with my last girlfriend right before I started seeing her. Just don't know what to do. Try to talk it over with her; if you don't like the relationship and if she doesn't want to help things work out, then leave her. It sounds cold-hearted, but personally, I don't stay in a relationship if being in it isn't enjoyable. Besides, Oka. You're a pretty cool guy, you could get a good-looking girl that isn't a dumb broad. :L My honesty seems like a bit too much for her to chew- which makes it my fault as well, and it seems like our friendship is degrading. And fuck I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel sad about it. It's just so crazy how you think you know yourself, and your limitations and your preferences, but then one day, out of fucking nowhere you realize you weren't as strong emotionally as you thought you were, that with just the right combination of factors, someone can plant a fucking seed in your brain and just take over everything. =^/ Fayfay, noooo. :c Don't get depressed, man. Easier said than done, but still. Anywho, let Stoner Jesus here try to help you. Try to revive the friendship. Try to talk to her, but don't "get all over her dick," y'know? You need to try and make her like you for who you are; I may only know you over the internet, but you're a good guy, you're smart. You should be able to snatch any fish out of the waters, to put it figuratively. You might not get this girl and if you don't, she won't be the one. You'll always find the one and when you find her, you'll love her and she'll love you. And things will be good. And if you're not looking for the one, there's always plenty of other girls out there, if you catch my drift.~ ALSO: This is a no-brainer, but: bitches love it when you're a gentleman. I'm not saying you aren't, but I dunno how you are in reality with girls. BUT GO FOR IT MORE, IF YOU ARE ONE. YOU GOT THIS SHIT, FAYFAY. I BELIEVE IN YOOOOOOU!~ <3
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Post by Fay on Apr 19, 2013 23:41:47 GMT -5
Fayfay, noooo. :c Don't get depressed, man. Easier said than done, but still. Anywho, let Stoner Jesus here try to help you. Try to revive the friendship. Try to talk to her, but don't "get all over her dick," y'know? You need to try and make her like you for who you are; I may only know you over the internet, but you're a good guy, you're smart. You should be able to snatch any fish out of the waters, to put it figuratively. That's the problem. I can't just be who I am anymore, because when I do that the lines get crossed: isn't me liking her a part of who I am? Aren't I a really honest person? If she doesn't like these things, or gets weirded out by them, then she really doesn't like who I am. Not just that, though, but what I meant with the "lines get crossed" is that even if I am my normal self, and the way I'm acting doesn't particularly have to do with getting on her dick, she still naturally just thinks that it does have to do with getting on her dick and gets weirded out. Before, while I was somewhat passive with her, I'd still be able to bust out a weird fucking fact about myself or say something weird to her and she'd be fine. Now that she knows I like her, doing that AT ALL makes her think I'm particularly trying to be all close with her for that reason. That's a whole "ability" I was able to do to her and use to express myself that has been taken away now. If I want to revive the friendship, getting her to like me for who I am is probably not the best way to do it. I honestly don't know what the hell she wants from me, because despite the degrading she just doesn't end it even though I've given her like a bunch of chances. Think she enjoys my suffering, You might not get this girl and if you don't, she won't be the one. You'll always find the one and when you find her, you'll love her and she'll love you. And things will be good. And if you're not looking for the one, there's always plenty of other girls out there, if you catch my drift.~ ALSO: This is a no-brainer, but: bitches love it when you're a gentleman. I'm not saying you aren't, but I dunno how you are in reality with girls. BUT GO FOR IT MORE, IF YOU ARE ONE. YOU GOT THIS SHIT, FAYFAY. I BELIEVE IN YOOOOOOU!~ <3 Aww, thanks bro. I definitely DO NOT want to find another one of her. Chances are she either won't be good enough or will be good enough but won't like me back. I want to be back to the way I was. I was stoic. I felt pain, but I was fine with it. I was just like "oh, well, I only have one life might as well as live it." I could move on, past the pain. This is different, it's not stopping, and I'm not fine with it. First time for everything I guess. Hopefully our different interests in college will just allow us to coincidentally part ways and she just won't care enough about me to ever talk to me again. Then it'll just eventually go away and I can return to normal again. In the mean time I'm going to try to get laid. Masturbation isn't working anymore. Another fucking freak-of-nature, unexpected result of this whole situation.
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Post by UlrichAcheronNacht on Apr 19, 2013 23:48:48 GMT -5
All wounds are healed with time. Just go fuck some hoodrats and you'll feel good again.
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Post by Fay on May 1, 2013 0:19:19 GMT -5
In the mean time I'm going to try to get laid. Masturbation isn't working anymore. Another fucking freak-of-nature, unexpected result of this whole situation. Mission failed. I shall try again. All wounds are healed with time. Just go fuck some hoodrats and you'll feel good again. Not a chance! I will only settle for a select few particular types. If that means I'll never have sex, then so be it. If I have sex with anything else, then it'll be pointless. I'll be cheered up more by masturbation at that point.
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Post by UlrichAcheronNacht on May 1, 2013 10:42:31 GMT -5
Not a chance! I will only settle for a select few particular types. If that means I'll never have sex, then so be it. If I have sex with anything else, then it'll be pointless. I'll be cheered up more by masturbation at that point. I'll go get young Christina Applegate from Married With Children for you. How's that sound?
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Post by Fay on May 1, 2013 16:07:19 GMT -5
^ Probably not good enough. Besides, I don't like the sound of getting her for me. >_> Sounds like kidnapping.
If it's celebrities we're talking, I'm pretty sure I could have passionate sex with any of the following:
Ellen Page, Mary Elizabeth Winstead, Keira Knightley, Olivia Wilde, and Rose Byrne.
It's actually funny when I think about it. I've seen so many girls that are hotter than celebrities. Taking out MEW and Olivia, I really don't like the bodies of these girls I just listed. But I've seen girls with both faces like these AND bodies to match. Well, only like 3, but still. I really can't say anything for sure, however, because I haven't met any of these celebrities in person.
Besides, I have some issue with bodies. Even on some of the hottest girls I've seen, from one angle their body looks nice, and then from another terrible. And then there is make-up to take into account for the face. lol, I really have no business being picky but that's just how I am. What the fuck is wrong with me, haha.
What about you? What's your general celebrity list?
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Post by UlrichAcheronNacht on May 2, 2013 21:09:25 GMT -5
Marilyn Monroe and Christina Applegate are my favorites. I also like the Candice Clot from Eths, she's pretty good looking. And Joan Jett, too. Marilyn's my wife and she always will be. Just because when Christina was in Married with Children, she was fucking smoking with the whole biker chick look. It's awkward when I watch that show with my family, because boners. Joan Jett also has that sexy-ass punk look. Both of these two when they were young, obvy. Candice has a punkish look, but she's also kinda goth. And her French accent's just fucking sexy. I love French accents so fucking much. If you're interested in hearing/seeing Candice, I'll give you this. If I could, I'd fuck her voice. There's just something about it when she's not growling.
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