Post by Fay on Dec 31, 2011 7:24:29 GMT -5
^^ many cases you can be attracted to only one person of the opposite sex and no one else like me. i've only been interested in my bf and no one else as well so yeah. it can be complicated.
Biological sexual attraction generalizes based on gender. Do you find your boyfriend's body sexually attractive? There are other men out there with his body type. I assure you. Do you find his personality sexually attractive? There are other men with similar personality traits. I assure you. Anything you find sexually attractive in him can and will be generalized to his gender type. To say otherwise is to say that men who are near-clones of your own current man would not be found attractive you. That's obviously ridiculously false. Just because you have your own specific type of man does not mean it has to get complicated. You are attracted to men, certain type of men, sure, but men nontheless.
Now. In women similar to him personaity-wise, do you find them sexually attractive as well? Then you are bisexual. You like both men and women who have that personality type. Deep down there is a sort of magnet that tags along with the attractions that turn us on. This ONLY becomes apparent when we are either Heterosexual or Homosexual. But when we are bisexual and pansexual, etc. It becomes harder to notice the difference, like with you here. So, I'm heterosexual, so I can notice the difference quite well. If I met a girl that was extremely intelligent, I would be sexually attracted to her. Even if she was kind of ugly. It wouldn't be the most strongest attraction ever, but I would have a slight chub going on down there. If I met a guy who was extremely intelligent, there would be no sexual reaction at all. Has nothing to do with physical looks, etc. Why is that? Because of sexual orientation- just the simply pairing of girl + intelligence is my "type". You have it for both men and women, I gather. So it's easy for you to overlook this inherent magnet that comes tagging along with our sexual attractions. But it is there. If you found a guy similar to your current one, you would be sexually turned on, correct? You have it, then. It's just harder to see because you have it for both men and women, I presume. It's just your own "type." We all have our own type as well. Doesn't need to get complicated because of that.
Sexuality is different and more complex depending on the person. Not one gay person is the same as the next. One gay person can be completely gay and not find the other gender attractive at all but the other can be completely gay but still love to make out with women or even have sex with them on occasion. Of course this could be called bisexual but that person wouldn't identify themself in such a way.
Let me tell you..... why that's bullshit. Biological attraction is based on gender type. Yeah, sure, no crap everyone has their own type, but it doesn't suddenly mean that there won't be others of that gender who are similar or that it has to get really specific when stating your sexuality. You either like men, and/or women, and/or mixed. Any one of those three either sexually turn you on or do not. It doesn't matter how specific the type of man/woman/mixed is, they still either turn you on or not. That's all there is to it. You don't get to choose what sexually turns you on or not. If a man is sexually turned on by a woman- no matter how specific, then they are not completely gay.
If a man is not turned on by a woman, but instead simply likes to make out and have sex with that woman for emotional pleasure, then they are not necessarily bi, I understand that. But that has nothing to do with one's biological sexual attraction. Doesn't matter who they like to make out with/sex with, it matters who their body instinctively says to reproduce with. That's what I'm saying. There's no need to bring emotions into it. Makes it TOO complicated for no reason. Emotions are way too random and unpredictable.
For example, I masturbate to Boxxy's face but it doesn't actually turn me on sexually at all. But because of emotions I can do it perfectly fine. I was full of shit when I said I had a face fetish in the sexual context. I don't at all. I have an emotional attraction to her, and thus when I'm done with my buissness, it makes me feel emotionally good afterwords. I like asscociating the two. I repeat: Emotions are too complex to try to associate with a gender magnet. Basically, if THAT's the reason why it's considered complex, then you're doing it wrong. Sexuality should be about sexual attraction, not emotional.
Edit: Also, interesting conversation, chaps. I'm glad you two brought it up.